Americans plan everything; marriage, children, college, retirement and vacations are all meticulously planned out. Research shows that 70% of Americans have life insurance policies, 55% have an estate plan or will, and yet preplanning your life’s celebration causes hesitation.
Why is this? Americans say memorial planning is a process that they are reluctant to begin.
Funeral preplanning doesn’t have to be difficult and should be considered, because every year over two million Americans are required to plan for the immediate loss of a loved one. The responsibility of planning a funeral while dealing with a loss is the most difficult time to arrange a memorial. Whether choosing a traditional funeral with burial or cremation, planning when in the troughs of emotion, often results in costly overspending, unnecessary stress and confusion.
Preplanning a personalized memorial helps to protect the financial future of your loved ones and recording personal wishes, grants families the ability to know exactly what their loved one wants.
To start the process contact Celebrate Me Home for a free Memorial Planning Guide. The guide is easy to follow and helps to keep all of your memorial wishes in one place.
Our compassionate Memorial Planners will walk you through every step of the process, helping answer questions and easing the process. Celebrate Me Home offers a free in-home, no-obligation consultation. A variety of memorial packages are available or you can choose from the a la carte menu to create a completely customized ceremony, one that fits your wishes and your budget.
Pre-planning is a very tangible act that anyone can do to not only take care of their family, but helps to make things as easy on them as possible when the inevitable occurs.
The subject of death and its inevitable end of life consequences has become social taboo. The idea of speaking about death, an imminent loss, or even a terminal illness cause people to resort to passing the information through whispers or worse…code!
For the silent generation, taking care of their dead was common place, and dealing with mourning and grief just came with the territory. The body of their loved one was lovingly cared for, dressed in their Sunday best and laid out in their home for days, without embalming. This was the only funeral option families had.
Over the last few decades families have slowly moved away from taking care of their own dead and sought the replacement of the sterility and industry of the funeral home. No longer did families handle all the details involved in memorializing their loved one. Instead they entrusted their loved one to the business of the funeral home. Inadvertently, changing the way we look upon death. Death and dying once thought of as common and a normal part of life, were now looked upon as an uncertain, unknown process. To be dealt with in a cold funeral home basement. Funeral and mourning rituals and the grief process became the same for everyone in every situation. The cookie cutter funeral was invented!
Now, the Baby Boomer generation, which is responsible for so many changes in their lifetime, again is changing our perspectives on death. The Conversation Project, death café’s and Celebrate Me Home were designed to help families feel comfortable talking about death. Most importantly discussing and documenting how one wants be remembered. Check out Celebrate Me Home’s FREE Memorial Planning Guide for help in starting the conversation.
Because of this, cremation is on the rise and expected to reach 50% of the population’s choice for body disposition by the year 2017. By choosing direct cremation and by-passing the traditional funeral, families are often at a loss on how to begin the process of memorializing a loved one.
Celebrate Me Home’s compassionate Memorial Planners help to make final wishes known and supports families in their time of loss. Creating your own memorial plan has proven to reduce families stress, help families find peace of mind, knowing they are following their loved one’s wishes, and reduces the risk of over spending due to grief. Contact Celebrate Me Home (203)221-6885, providing help and support to you and your family.
Celebrate Me Home is a unique end of life service that supports families in preplanning and at the time of a loss. As a Memorial Planner, it is my responsibility to gather personal information regarding their funeral and cremation wishes.
I recently had the pleasure of being invited to a “Thank You” breakfast in support of our local VNA. The food was wonderful and the guests were friendly, making it an enjoyable morning. Everyone was finishing, when the keynote speaker took the microphone.
Kathie Nitz is a life coach and a motivational speaker. Outside of her biography in the program, I knew nothing about her. As Kathie began to speak, her gentle, confident manner made it easy to listen and as she began her story I was touched. Kathie’s mother has Alzheimer’s, a devastating disease that effects memory and eventually results in death. There are very little treatment options and no cure.
Losing the ability to remember makes it extremely difficult for families to converse with their loved ones. Families feel the pressure to “talk while they still can” and often become frustrated by the varying paths their conversations now take.
Kathie became aware of this through her own personal experience with her mom. Instead of resorting to conversations regarding the mundane, Kathie saw this as an opportunity. She realized the value and importance of personal conversation, creating conversation starters to help families find innovative ways to “talk” with their family member. Kathie created Caring Cards.
Caring Cards are an innovative way to start a conversation. She writes, “I was inspired to create these cards as a way to connect with my mom.”
Each card in the deck asks a thought provoking question, designed to promote the sharing of stories, feelings, memories and wisdom. Helping promote a connection and a feeling of being valued and important, creating a legacy to be cherished!
As most of my days are spent in the company of seniors, I have found them to be intelligent, wise and extremely funny. They all have value and important life stories that should be shared. We all should spend some time using Kathie’s Caring Cards and speak with a senior. Start the conversation on how they would like to be remembered. Find out what makes them unique! They have so much to teach us and with Caring Cards you can easily find a place to start listening!
When you lose a loved one, you realize two things, life is fragile and temporary and you are forced to face your own mortality.
When planning a memorial for your loved one, often during a time of stress and grief, wondering if you are honoring your loved one the way they truly wanted is common. In addition to leaving a financial Will and important documents in a place where family members can easily find them, your funeral plans will need to be found first. Does everyone you live with know where you keep them, and is the location easily accessible? Do you want to be cremated or buried? If buried, where? If cremated, who should keep your remains, or should they be scattered? Where? Do you want a memorial service, a simple graveside service with close family, or a large “Celebration of Life” party? Often times the sentiment you hear most is, “Am I doing this right?” These questions of honoring a loved one in the “correct” way are difficult and unwanted, and often bring forth unnecessary anxiety and stress at a very difficult time.
Celebrate Me Home was designed to help support families. The act of preplanning your own memorial helps alleviate the stress on your family during their most difficult of times, and is often seen as your final act of love.
Use our Memorial Preplanning guide to preplan your final wishes, ensuring your memorial is exactly what you want while helping to alleviate the many questions your loved ones will have.
Families see preplanning as a gift and an unselfish expression of love, allowing families to honor their loved one, taking all the guess work out of planning a memorial service.
Contact Celebrate Me Home at (203)221-6885 for more information on preplanning or go to http://celebratemehomect.com/contact/?requestguide=yes to order your free Memorial Planning Guide.
Out With a Bang!
Walter passed away March 9, 2014. He was 81 years old. Walter’s obituary was humorous, inspiring and written by Walter himself! He had started writing his obituary years ago, where he left just a few blank spaces (his actual deceased date) for his wife of 59 years to fill in.
Writing your own obituary is gaining in popularity, with the help of Celebrate Me Home’s memorial planning guide, recording your personal thoughts and wishes is an easy way to begin the process.
Being true to honor the unique individual Walter was his family proudly placed Walter’s epitaph in the local paper and on Walter’s facebook page, right next to a picture of his favorite meal, schnitzel and beer.
Walter chose a simple memorial service and cremation, “since his wife refused to honor his request to be posed standing in a corner with a glass of Jack Daniels in his hand.”
Celebrate Me Home helps to inspire and support families in fulfilling their loved one’s final wishes.
Celebrate Me Home’s Out With a Bang! memorial theme is designed to represent the unique spirit of a loved one who enjoyed and found whimsy in life, and who always lived life to the fullest. It seems Walter, in his unique and creative way, left an indelible mark on the memories of his loved ones. Walter went out with a bang!
Celebrate Me Home’s memorial planning guide
The loss of a loved one is inevitable, followed by the feeling of grief, which is unavoidable. For some of us, our instinct might be to avoid it. Resulting in prolonging the grief we feel, sometimes extending it by a full year or more. Therefore, it is crucial to allow yourself to feel and express your grief from the beginning.
Learning to cope with grief can be challenging, but it allows us to put our loss into perspective and remember our relationships. Grief is a very personal process, but overwhelmingly research shows that memorializing a loved one aids in the process of healing.
You can ease your grief through pre-planning. By pre-planning, our Memorial Planners will help ensure final wishes will be met. This gives families the ability to cope with the loss and reminisce with friends and family.
Most major life events are planned – birthdays, weddings, mitzvahs, reunions, graduations, retirement.
“The only things certain in life are death and taxes.” – Benjamin Franklin
Death and taxes are inevitable – you plan for taxes, whether you are a do-it-yourself person, or you hire an expert. So why not plan a life celebration in advance? We say, let’s do it!
By planning ahead, you get what you want. There’s no guessing left to grieving family members, what would he or she want? You’ve already worked out the details with a Celebrate Me Home® Memorial Event Planner– including funding your life celebration. Your family can focus on the fun memories of you and the wonderful life you had.
It’s estimated there are about 150 decisions and tasks to complete in the first 24-48 hours after a death. It’s no wonder 35% of funerals are preplanned and the number is growing. Planning ahead takes the pressure off loved ones, and leaves you feeling confident that everything is in order. It also ensures that money is spent on what’s important to you and that no one is pressured into unwanted services or options.
Whether you want something small, quiet and reserved – or over the top like Robert Duval’s character Felix Bush in the movie Get Low – Celebrate Me Home® knows how to make a seemingly daunting task simple. There are several Memorial Themes to help guide in preplanning, or you can create something completely unique that matches your life and personality.
When it’s time, CMH will coordinate with family and friends to be sure everything comes off just as you planned.
How you are remembered by loved ones when you are gone is very important to many people.
In the movie Life is Beautiful, this sentiment is seen its truest form between a father and his young son; both are prisoners in a camp during the Holocaust. During his final moments in the bleakest of situations, the father wants only positive, fun, good memories for his child.
Guido Orefice, (Roberto Benigni) realizes he’s likely marching to his death, he sees his son, Giosuè (Giorgio Cantarini). He smiles, winks, and pretends he is marching in a game.
Even when faced with death, we are not alone, and can smile through many of the tears. Celebrate Me Home™ Memorial Planners help to keep the focus on life and its beauty, celebrating life during the transition from earthly life to eternal life.
Only imagination limits the scope and venue of a memorial service. Celebrate Me Home™ Memorial Planners can create a completely unique and custom celebration, or there are several Memorial Themes™ from which to choose.
How will you be remembered? How do you want to be remembered?