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Celebrating Mother’s Day without Mom

Once you lose your Mother, everyday is different. If you are a Baby Boomer, you were probably raised by a stay at home Mom. She took care of all your basic needs, eating, sleeping and cleanliness. She was responsible for your education, helping you solve a difficult math problem or making sure your homework was completed. She was your disciplinarian when you broke the rules and your accomplice when “Dad didn’t need to know.” She was a lot of things, and just one thing – Mom, and because she was “Just a Mom”, she probably never got the respect she deserved.

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Now as an adult, with children of your own, you realize the importance and unconditional love only a Mother can have for her children. On Mother’s day, this can be especially hard when your Mom is no longer with you. Celebrate Me Home helps families create lasting memories; a memorial photo tribute is a way to gather memories and share them with future generations.

As a Mother myself, I realize all children to some degree, take their Mother’s love for granted. You can count the stages of your life by the relationships you had with your Mom. As a small child you cried when you were away from her. As a teenager anything your Mom did, said or wore mortified you. When you were a young adult she started to become your friend, and only when you had children of your own did you fully understand the complex love of Mother and child.

Mother’s Day is a day to celebrate Mom, whether she is with you, if she lives far away or if she has passed away. Celebrate your Mother by finding the gifts of her life- the values she instilled and the lessons she taught.

  • *Greeting Cards were made for Mother’s day! So write your Mother a note, make sure to include what made her special, your fondest memories and      what you have learned from her.
  • *Participate in an activity your Mom loved, garden, bake, or watch her favorite movie.
  • *Display Moms favorite items  
  • *Play her favorite games
  • *Donate to her favorite charity

Another way to honor Mom is to celebrate all the Moms you know. Gather together and share memories and stories, favorite recipes and photoalbums.Celebrate Me Home helps to families create lasting life legacies. A living life celebration can be tailored to fit the unique personality of your Mom, her values and her family. Honoring your Mom and celebrating her life story.celebrating Mothers

 No matter how you choose to remember your Mom on this Mothers Day. Remember, she’s your Mom; she loves you no matter what!

The Value of Conversation

caring cards fanCelebrate Me Home is a unique end of life service that supports families in preplanning and at the time of a loss.  As a Memorial Planner, it is my responsibility to gather personal information regarding their funeral and cremation wishes.CMH-Planning-Guide-140x180

I recently had the pleasure of being invited to a “Thank You” breakfast in support of our local VNA.  The food was wonderful and the guests were friendly, making it an enjoyable morning. Everyone was finishing, when the keynote speaker took the microphone.

Kathie Nitz is a life coach and a motivational speaker.   Outside of her biography in the program, I knew nothing about her. As Kathie began to speak, her gentle, confident manner made it easy to listen and as she began her story I was touched. Kathie’s mother has Alzheimer’s, a devastating disease that effects memory and eventually results in death. There are very little treatment options and no cure.

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Losing the ability to remember makes it extremely difficult for families to converse with their loved ones.  Families feel the pressure to “talk while they still can” and often become frustrated by the varying paths their conversations now take.

Kathie became aware of this through her own personal experience with her mom. Instead of resorting to conversations regarding the mundane, Kathie saw this as an opportunity. She realized the value and importance of personal conversation, creating conversation starters to help families find innovative ways to “talk” with their family member. Kathie created Caring Cards.

Caring Cards are an innovative way to start a conversation.  She writes, “I was inspired to create these cards as a way to connect with my mom.”

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caring cards jpgcaring cards jpgcaring cards caring cardscaring cardsEach card in the deck asks a thought provoking question, designed to promote the sharing of stories, feelings, memories and wisdom. Helping promote a connection and a feeling of being valued and important, creating a legacy to be cherished!

As most of my days are spent in the company of seniors, I have found them to be intelligent, wise and extremely funny. They all have value and important life stories that should be shared. We all should spend some time using Kathie’s Caring Cards and speak with a senior. Start the conversation on how they would like to be remembered. Find out what makes them unique! They have so much to teach us and with Caring Cards you can easily find a place to start listening!

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“Green” Baby Boomers

Today, America’s Baby Boomer eco-conscious population will be noted in history as the generation responsible for changing the world.

old time familyBoomers have demanded organic, non-pesticide treated, non-genetically modified food. They have broadened our horizons by co-mingling different religions to find the right fit for them.  Boomers choose barefoot running, hot yoga, high intensity training and spinning classes.

They have orchestrated their health, wealth, retirement and their own deaths. They are choosing to preplan their own memorials, designing them to fit their unique personality. It is no surprise the Baby Boomer generation is demanding eco-friendly funeral options and an “Out with a Bang” memorial celebration.

Celebrate Me Home was created to support families desiring a “Celebration of Life”. Working with you, a one-of-a kind ceremony is created to reflect your unique personality and style.  Celebrate Me Home supports families who want to by-pass the funeral home experience and choose cremation.

With boomers increasingly choosing cremation, rates are on the rise and projected to reach 54.4% making it the preferred choice of body disposition. The environmentally conscious can choose an alternative to the flame based cremation and choose “resomation” (alkaline hydrolysis), which uses less energy and releases no carbon into the atmosphere.

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The choices for their life celebration; choosing to go out in a big way or surrounded by just close family and friends, may separate the average Baby Boomer. However; staying true to their individuality is what unites them.

Out With a Bang!

Out With a Bang!

Walter passed away March 9, 2014. He was 81 years old. Walter’s obituary was humorous, inspiring and written by Walter himself! He had started writing his obituary years ago, where he left just a few blank spaces (his actual deceased date) for his wife of 59 years to fill in.

Writing yCMH-Planning-Guide-140x180our own obituary is gaining in popularity, with the help of Celebrate Me Home’s memorial planning guide, recording your personal thoughts and wishes is an easy way to begin the process.

 

 Being true to honor the unique individual Walter was his family proudly placed Walter’s epitaph in the local paper and on Walter’s facebook page, right next to a picture of his favorite meal, schnitzel and beer.

Walter chose a simple memorial service and cremation, “since his wife refused to honor his request to be posed standing in a corner with a glass of Jack Daniels in his hand.”

Celebrate Me Home helps to inspire and support families in fulfilling their loved one’s final wishes.

Celebrate Me Home’s Out With a Bang! memorial theme is designed to represent the unique spirit of a loved one who enjoyed and found whimsy in life, and who always lived life to the fullest.  It seems Walter, in his unique and creative way, left an indelible mark on the memories of his loved ones. Walter went out with a bang!

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What does decaf, donuts and death have in common?

 

What does decaf, donuts and death have in common?

…..introducing the Death Café

 

Informal flyers invite all to attend. Groups of people ages 18 to 84, gather in their local coffee shops and book stores to discuss death. There is no formal agenda, group discussions start with a question designed to break the ice and off they go. The conversations range from philosophical ideologies to medical questions. This is the Death Café and they are taking off and gathering steam around the globe.

 Informal flyers invite all to attend. Groups of people ages 18 to 84, gather in their local coffee shops and book stores to discuss death. There is no formal agenda, group discussions start with a question designed to break the ice and off they go. The conversations range from philosophical ideologies to medical questions. This is the Death Café and they are taking off and gathering steam around the globe.

The importance of this movement is clear, people want more information about death and dying. Society understands that death and dying are a natural part of life and the more society discusses this, the more educated and empowered we are to navigate our own final days and those of our loved ones.

 

The biggest bombshell to emerge for this trend is the desire to begin conversations about end-of-life wishes with aging parents and other family members. Suggestions have been made to have these discussions yearly, possibly around the holidays, because generally extend family gathers together to celebrate and wishes may change, so staying current is important.

 

Celebrate Me Home helps families start the conversation about end-of-life planning with an eaCMH-Planning-Guide coversy to follow Memorial Planning Guide. Committed to supporting families through the preplanning process or at the time of a loss, Celebrate Me Home’s compassionate Memorial Planners offer guidance every step of the way. Celebrate Me Home helps families plan a ceremony that is meaningful, provides peace of mind and can be tailored to fit any budget. For more information on end-of-life planning and how Celebrate Me Home can help you, contact us at (203) 221-6885.

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Good Grief!

 

Good Grief

The loss of a loved one is inevitable, followed by the feeling of grief, which is unavoidable. For some of us, our instinct might be to avoid it. Resulting in prolonging the grief we feel, sometimes extending it by a full year or more. Therefore, it is crucial to allow yourself to feel and express your grief from the beginning.

Learning to cope with grief can be challenging, but it allows us to put our loss into perspective and remember our relationships. Grief is a very personal process, but overwhelmingly research shows that memorializing a loved one aids in the process of healing.

You can ease your grief through pre-planning.  By pre-planning, our Memorial Planners will help ensure final wishes will be met. This gives families the ability to cope with the loss and reminisce with friends and family.

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My Way Out!

Baby Boomers are creating change in end-of-life care and Celebrate Me Home is right there with them.

These generations of empowered individuals are known for pushing boundaries and breaking the rules. Why would the process of death stop them from getting what they want? Boomers want to be remembered in a way that reflects their unique spirit. They are tearing down the familiarity of funeral home goodbyes and have started a trend of personalized memorial services. Environmentally friendly caskets made from willow, sea grass and bamboo, life celebrations where cremated remains are scattered at wineries, over the ocean during a beautiful sunset on a much loved beach or becoming part of an eternal reef and creating an everlasting habitat for sea life. This is the way these folks want to go out-BIG!

My Way OutDeath doesn’t scare this group! Playing, working and living large are their mantra! Death and their celebration following it entice them. They want a say in how it all plays out. They want control over the food served, the venue, the music and the celebration!

Celebrate Me Home services are ready to the “Me Generation” on the social media circuit. Find us at www.celebratemehomect.com, Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube.

Finally, we realize the memorial service in not the end all. These folks also want peace of mind knowing their families will be supported throughout the healing process. Find grief resources at www.celebratemehomect.com.

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It’s Important to Plan a Farewell

With hectic lives and schedules, it’s easy to try and push emotions aside and just forge ahead after the loss of a loved one. When it comes to grief, letting it out is crucial, and it’s just one of the reasons a pre-planned farewell is helpful so loved ones can focus on their healing and good memories rather than the many details of planning a funeral.

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Whether you pre-plan or not, planning of a memorial service allows you to HonorA Life’s Legacy ™ and start to your healing with friends and family. Plan celebration of life that is meaningful to you and also can be shared with others.

Being emotional throughout the process is healthy, since you do not want to deny your feelings or memories of your loved one; both can be integrated into the ceremony.

Participating in the memorial service helps you deal with the reality of the loss, and begin to grieve in a healthy manner. If you need help making final arrangements, remember you have options – whether it’s friends or Celebrate Me Home ™.

There’s a lot to manage and process; you don’t need to do it all alone.

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