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Taboo Talk

The subject of death and its inevitable end of life consequences has become social taboo. The idea of speaking about death, an imminent loss, or even a terminal illness cause people to resort to passing the information through whispers or worse…code!
For the silent generation, taking care of their dead was common place, and dealing with mourning and grief just came with the territory. The body of their loved one was lovingly cared for, dressed in their Sunday best and laid out in their home for days, without embalming. This was the only funeral option families had.

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Over the last few decades families have slowly moved away from taking care of their own dead and sought the replacement of the sterility and industry of the funeral home. No longer did families handle all the details involved in memorializing their loved one. Instead they entrusted their loved one to the business of the funeral home. Inadvertently, changing the way we look upon death. Death and dying once thought of as common and a normal part of life, were now looked upon as an uncertain, unknown process. To be dealt with in a cold funeral home basement. Funeral and mourning rituals and the grief process became the same for everyone in every situation. The cookie cutter funeral was invented!
Now, the Baby Boomer generation, which is responsible for so many changes in their lifetime, again is changing our perspectives on death. The Conversation Project, death café’s and Celebrate Me Home were designed to help families feel comfortable talking about death. Most importantly discussing and documenting how one wants be remembered. Check out Celebrate Me Home’s FREE Memorial Planning Guide for help in starting the conversation.

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Because of this, cremation is on the rise and expected to reach 50% of the population’s choice for body disposition by the year 2017. By choosing direct cremation and by-passing the traditional funeral, families are often at a loss on how to begin the process of memorializing a loved one.
Celebrate Me Home’s compassionate Memorial Planners help to make final wishes known and supports families in their time of loss. Creating your own memorial plan has proven to reduce families stress, help families find peace of mind, knowing they are following their loved one’s wishes, and reduces the risk of over spending due to grief. Contact Celebrate Me Home (203)221-6885, providing help and support to you and your family.

Celebrating Mother’s Day without Mom

Once you lose your Mother, everyday is different. If you are a Baby Boomer, you were probably raised by a stay at home Mom. She took care of all your basic needs, eating, sleeping and cleanliness. She was responsible for your education, helping you solve a difficult math problem or making sure your homework was completed. She was your disciplinarian when you broke the rules and your accomplice when “Dad didn’t need to know.” She was a lot of things, and just one thing – Mom, and because she was “Just a Mom”, she probably never got the respect she deserved.

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Now as an adult, with children of your own, you realize the importance and unconditional love only a Mother can have for her children. On Mother’s day, this can be especially hard when your Mom is no longer with you. Celebrate Me Home helps families create lasting memories; a memorial photo tribute is a way to gather memories and share them with future generations.

As a Mother myself, I realize all children to some degree, take their Mother’s love for granted. You can count the stages of your life by the relationships you had with your Mom. As a small child you cried when you were away from her. As a teenager anything your Mom did, said or wore mortified you. When you were a young adult she started to become your friend, and only when you had children of your own did you fully understand the complex love of Mother and child.

Mother’s Day is a day to celebrate Mom, whether she is with you, if she lives far away or if she has passed away. Celebrate your Mother by finding the gifts of her life- the values she instilled and the lessons she taught.

  • *Greeting Cards were made for Mother’s day! So write your Mother a note, make sure to include what made her special, your fondest memories and      what you have learned from her.
  • *Participate in an activity your Mom loved, garden, bake, or watch her favorite movie.
  • *Display Moms favorite items  
  • *Play her favorite games
  • *Donate to her favorite charity

Another way to honor Mom is to celebrate all the Moms you know. Gather together and share memories and stories, favorite recipes and photoalbums.Celebrate Me Home helps to families create lasting life legacies. A living life celebration can be tailored to fit the unique personality of your Mom, her values and her family. Honoring your Mom and celebrating her life story.celebrating Mothers

 No matter how you choose to remember your Mom on this Mothers Day. Remember, she’s your Mom; she loves you no matter what!

The Value of Conversation

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I recently had the pleasure of being invited to a “Thank You” breakfast in support of our local VNA.  The food was wonderful and the guests were friendly, making it an enjoyable morning. Everyone was finishing, when the keynote speaker took the microphone.

Kathie Nitz is a life coach and a motivational speaker.   Outside of her biography in the program, I knew nothing about her. As Kathie began to speak, her gentle, confident manner made it easy to listen and as she began her story I was touched. Kathie’s mother has Alzheimer’s, a devastating disease that effects memory and eventually results in death. There are very little treatment options and no cure.

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Losing the ability to remember makes it extremely difficult for families to converse with their loved ones.  Families feel the pressure to “talk while they still can” and often become frustrated by the varying paths their conversations now take.

Kathie became aware of this through her own personal experience with her mom. Instead of resorting to conversations regarding the mundane, Kathie saw this as an opportunity. She realized the value and importance of personal conversation, creating conversation starters to help families find innovative ways to “talk” with their family member. Kathie created Caring Cards.

Caring Cards are an innovative way to start a conversation.  She writes, “I was inspired to create these cards as a way to connect with my mom.”

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caring cards jpgcaring cards jpgcaring cards caring cardscaring cardsEach card in the deck asks a thought provoking question, designed to promote the sharing of stories, feelings, memories and wisdom. Helping promote a connection and a feeling of being valued and important, creating a legacy to be cherished!

As most of my days are spent in the company of seniors, I have found them to be intelligent, wise and extremely funny. They all have value and important life stories that should be shared. We all should spend some time using Kathie’s Caring Cards and speak with a senior. Start the conversation on how they would like to be remembered. Find out what makes them unique! They have so much to teach us and with Caring Cards you can easily find a place to start listening!

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Taking Control of Your Funeral

Celebrate Me Home, is a unique end of life planning service, providing guidance and support with all your memorial preplanning needs.  The memorial planning guide is an invaluable resource, helping to record all your memorial wishes.

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Planning your own memorial service in advance not only allows you to design and specify the type of service you’d prefer; whether it be cremation or burial, but it also provides peace of mind for you and your family – who should be celebrating your life and joyous memories, not worrying about all the details

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Burialplanning.com recently reported the top 5 reasons to preplan your memorial.

1.       You will have control. Wouldn’t you want to have more control over your live and death? Pre-planning provides you power to make decisions regarding how and where you’ll be laid to rest, what type of ceremony you would like, burial, and/or cremation, even what type of prayer cards and memorial stationery you would like, and a host of other considerations that would otherwise be left up to mourning-loved ones.

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2.       Loved ones in mourning frequently do not make smart financial decisions. Purchasing costly burial merchandise during times of grief often cause emotional overspending.

3.       Personal views are changing the way death is being viewed. Different generations want different things. Baby boomers want a more individualized memorial service; Generation Xers may choose a “Greener” cremation/burial option; while most consumers are choosing the focus to be on their life story, not on the loss.

4.       Preplanning helps to avoid debt. Frequently the children of families facing death are responsible financially for funeral, burial or cremation costs.

5. Death is a part of life. Death should be celebrated and prepared for, just like you would for a wedding, birth, college or retirement.

To order your free memorial planning guide visit, http://celebratemehomect.com/contact/?requestguide=yes

A Final Act of Love

 

When you lose a loved one, you realize two things, life is fragile and temporary and you are forced to face your own mortality.

old-couple-250x300When planning a memorial for your loved one, often during a time of stress and grief, wondering if you are honoring your loved one the way they truly wanted is common.  In addition to leaving a financial Will and important documents in a place where family members can easily find them, your funeral plans will need to be found first. Does everyone you live with know where you keep them, and is the location easily accessible? Do you want to be cremated or buried? If buried, where? If cremated, who should keep your remains, or should they be scattered? Where? Do you want a memorial service, a simple graveside service with close family, or a large “Celebration of Life” party? Often times the sentiment you hear most is, “Am I doing this right?”  These questions of honoring a loved one in the “correct” way are difficult and unwanted, and often bring forth unnecessary anxiety and stress at a very difficult time.

Celebrate Me Home was designed to help support families. The act of preplanning your own memorial helps alleviate the stress on your family during their most difficult of times, and is often seen as your final act of love.

Use our Memorial Preplanning guide to preplan your final wishes, ensuring your memorial is exactly what you want while helping to alleviate the many questions your loved ones will have.

Families see preplanning as a gift and an unselfish expression of love, allowing families to honor their loved one, taking all the guess work out of planning a memorial service.CMH-Planning-Guide-140x180

 

Contact Celebrate Me Home at (203)221-6885 for more information on preplanning or go to http://celebratemehomect.com/contact/?requestguide=yes  to order your free Memorial Planning Guide.

 

 

 

 

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What does decaf, donuts and death have in common?

 

What does decaf, donuts and death have in common?

…..introducing the Death Café

 

Informal flyers invite all to attend. Groups of people ages 18 to 84, gather in their local coffee shops and book stores to discuss death. There is no formal agenda, group discussions start with a question designed to break the ice and off they go. The conversations range from philosophical ideologies to medical questions. This is the Death Café and they are taking off and gathering steam around the globe.

 Informal flyers invite all to attend. Groups of people ages 18 to 84, gather in their local coffee shops and book stores to discuss death. There is no formal agenda, group discussions start with a question designed to break the ice and off they go. The conversations range from philosophical ideologies to medical questions. This is the Death Café and they are taking off and gathering steam around the globe.

The importance of this movement is clear, people want more information about death and dying. Society understands that death and dying are a natural part of life and the more society discusses this, the more educated and empowered we are to navigate our own final days and those of our loved ones.

 

The biggest bombshell to emerge for this trend is the desire to begin conversations about end-of-life wishes with aging parents and other family members. Suggestions have been made to have these discussions yearly, possibly around the holidays, because generally extend family gathers together to celebrate and wishes may change, so staying current is important.

 

Celebrate Me Home helps families start the conversation about end-of-life planning with an eaCMH-Planning-Guide coversy to follow Memorial Planning Guide. Committed to supporting families through the preplanning process or at the time of a loss, Celebrate Me Home’s compassionate Memorial Planners offer guidance every step of the way. Celebrate Me Home helps families plan a ceremony that is meaningful, provides peace of mind and can be tailored to fit any budget. For more information on end-of-life planning and how Celebrate Me Home can help you, contact us at (203) 221-6885.

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Food and Funerals

 

BrokenHeartRitualistically speaking, food has a strong affect on the healing process and grief. Through food we develop and maintain ties to each other.  Delivering food is a way to provide support to a family who has suffered a loss.

To show their love and support families turn to preferred dishes, such as: casseroles, baked hams, and trays of lasagna, cookies, cakes and pies. Given the importance of food and the family history it can provide, it often becomes a major part of the memorial and healing process.

The choice of food sent means, “You are missed”. The choice of food served at the service says, “You are family”, and the food stored in the freezer to be eaten at a later time says, “You are in our thoughts.”

Celebrate Me Home offers a wide variety of food and gift items that can be shipped around the country. Visit the “Sympathy Gifts” page at www.celebratemehomect.com for ideas.

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