The subject of death and its inevitable end of life consequences has become social taboo. The idea of speaking about death, an imminent loss, or even a terminal illness cause people to resort to passing the information through whispers or worse…code!
For the silent generation, taking care of their dead was common place, and dealing with mourning and grief just came with the territory. The body of their loved one was lovingly cared for, dressed in their Sunday best and laid out in their home for days, without embalming. This was the only funeral option families had.
Over the last few decades families have slowly moved away from taking care of their own dead and sought the replacement of the sterility and industry of the funeral home. No longer did families handle all the details involved in memorializing their loved one. Instead they entrusted their loved one to the business of the funeral home. Inadvertently, changing the way we look upon death. Death and dying once thought of as common and a normal part of life, were now looked upon as an uncertain, unknown process. To be dealt with in a cold funeral home basement. Funeral and mourning rituals and the grief process became the same for everyone in every situation. The cookie cutter funeral was invented!
Now, the Baby Boomer generation, which is responsible for so many changes in their lifetime, again is changing our perspectives on death. The Conversation Project, death café’s and Celebrate Me Home were designed to help families feel comfortable talking about death. Most importantly discussing and documenting how one wants be remembered. Check out Celebrate Me Home’s FREE Memorial Planning Guide for help in starting the conversation.
Because of this, cremation is on the rise and expected to reach 50% of the population’s choice for body disposition by the year 2017. By choosing direct cremation and by-passing the traditional funeral, families are often at a loss on how to begin the process of memorializing a loved one.
Celebrate Me Home’s compassionate Memorial Planners help to make final wishes known and supports families in their time of loss. Creating your own memorial plan has proven to reduce families stress, help families find peace of mind, knowing they are following their loved one’s wishes, and reduces the risk of over spending due to grief. Contact Celebrate Me Home (203)221-6885, providing help and support to you and your family.
Celebrate Me Home is a unique end of life service that supports families in preplanning and at the time of a loss. As a Memorial Planner, it is my responsibility to gather personal information regarding their funeral and cremation wishes.
I recently had the pleasure of being invited to a “Thank You” breakfast in support of our local VNA. The food was wonderful and the guests were friendly, making it an enjoyable morning. Everyone was finishing, when the keynote speaker took the microphone.
Kathie Nitz is a life coach and a motivational speaker. Outside of her biography in the program, I knew nothing about her. As Kathie began to speak, her gentle, confident manner made it easy to listen and as she began her story I was touched. Kathie’s mother has Alzheimer’s, a devastating disease that effects memory and eventually results in death. There are very little treatment options and no cure.
Losing the ability to remember makes it extremely difficult for families to converse with their loved ones. Families feel the pressure to “talk while they still can” and often become frustrated by the varying paths their conversations now take.
Kathie became aware of this through her own personal experience with her mom. Instead of resorting to conversations regarding the mundane, Kathie saw this as an opportunity. She realized the value and importance of personal conversation, creating conversation starters to help families find innovative ways to “talk” with their family member. Kathie created Caring Cards.
Caring Cards are an innovative way to start a conversation. She writes, “I was inspired to create these cards as a way to connect with my mom.”
Each card in the deck asks a thought provoking question, designed to promote the sharing of stories, feelings, memories and wisdom. Helping promote a connection and a feeling of being valued and important, creating a legacy to be cherished!
As most of my days are spent in the company of seniors, I have found them to be intelligent, wise and extremely funny. They all have value and important life stories that should be shared. We all should spend some time using Kathie’s Caring Cards and speak with a senior. Start the conversation on how they would like to be remembered. Find out what makes them unique! They have so much to teach us and with Caring Cards you can easily find a place to start listening!
Today, America’s Baby Boomer eco-conscious population will be noted in history as the generation responsible for changing the world.
Boomers have demanded organic, non-pesticide treated, non-genetically modified food. They have broadened our horizons by co-mingling different religions to find the right fit for them. Boomers choose barefoot running, hot yoga, high intensity training and spinning classes.
They have orchestrated their health, wealth, retirement and their own deaths. They are choosing to preplan their own memorials, designing them to fit their unique personality. It is no surprise the Baby Boomer generation is demanding eco-friendly funeral options and an “Out with a Bang” memorial celebration.
Celebrate Me Home was created to support families desiring a “Celebration of Life”. Working with you, a one-of-a kind ceremony is created to reflect your unique personality and style. Celebrate Me Home supports families who want to by-pass the funeral home experience and choose cremation.
With boomers increasingly choosing cremation, rates are on the rise and projected to reach 54.4% making it the preferred choice of body disposition. The environmentally conscious can choose an alternative to the flame based cremation and choose “resomation” (alkaline hydrolysis), which uses less energy and releases no carbon into the atmosphere.
The choices for their life celebration; choosing to go out in a big way or surrounded by just close family and friends, may separate the average Baby Boomer. However; staying true to their individuality is what unites them.
When you lose a loved one, you realize two things, life is fragile and temporary and you are forced to face your own mortality.
When planning a memorial for your loved one, often during a time of stress and grief, wondering if you are honoring your loved one the way they truly wanted is common. In addition to leaving a financial Will and important documents in a place where family members can easily find them, your funeral plans will need to be found first. Does everyone you live with know where you keep them, and is the location easily accessible? Do you want to be cremated or buried? If buried, where? If cremated, who should keep your remains, or should they be scattered? Where? Do you want a memorial service, a simple graveside service with close family, or a large “Celebration of Life” party? Often times the sentiment you hear most is, “Am I doing this right?” These questions of honoring a loved one in the “correct” way are difficult and unwanted, and often bring forth unnecessary anxiety and stress at a very difficult time.
Celebrate Me Home was designed to help support families. The act of preplanning your own memorial helps alleviate the stress on your family during their most difficult of times, and is often seen as your final act of love.
Use our Memorial Preplanning guide to preplan your final wishes, ensuring your memorial is exactly what you want while helping to alleviate the many questions your loved ones will have.
Families see preplanning as a gift and an unselfish expression of love, allowing families to honor their loved one, taking all the guess work out of planning a memorial service.
Contact Celebrate Me Home at (203)221-6885 for more information on preplanning or go to http://celebratemehomect.com/contact/?requestguide=yes to order your free Memorial Planning Guide.
Baby Boomers are creating change in end-of-life care and Celebrate Me Home is right there with them.
These generations of empowered individuals are known for pushing boundaries and breaking the rules. Why would the process of death stop them from getting what they want? Boomers want to be remembered in a way that reflects their unique spirit. They are tearing down the familiarity of funeral home goodbyes and have started a trend of personalized memorial services. Environmentally friendly caskets made from willow, sea grass and bamboo, life celebrations where cremated remains are scattered at wineries, over the ocean during a beautiful sunset on a much loved beach or becoming part of an eternal reef and creating an everlasting habitat for sea life. This is the way these folks want to go out-BIG!
Death doesn’t scare this group! Playing, working and living large are their mantra! Death and their celebration following it entice them. They want a say in how it all plays out. They want control over the food served, the venue, the music and the celebration!
Celebrate Me Home services are ready to the “Me Generation” on the social media circuit. Find us at www.celebratemehomect.com, Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube.
Finally, we realize the memorial service in not the end all. These folks also want peace of mind knowing their families will be supported throughout the healing process. Find grief resources at www.celebratemehomect.com.
Cremation is on the rise. Cremation costs approximately $5,000 less than a traditional funeral with burial, even though for some this is the driving factor, for others it means a more natural approach to death and leaving a smaller carbon footprint.
Celebrate Me Home realizes that death is personal. The cremation option allows for personalization and flexibility for families to honor their lost loved one on their terms.
A chart that shows the growth of cremation
The increase in the cremation rate is projecting that “1 out of 2 Americans” will be cremated by 2017. No longer will we have the time constraints traditional funerals forced on us. Cremation allows us to be more creative in how we want to be remembered. For instance, George Alan Thompson II, Big Al, was a fishing enthusiast; now his cremains are a reef in his favorite fishing spot. His wife felt a sense of joy knowing for eternity Big Al would be a natural part of an environment he always loved.
With cremation, you can keep your loved one with you or send them into space. You can show case them in an urn that reflects a favorite hobby, sport or rock band. You can create a piece of garden art or beautiful jewelry, or you can choose a bio-degradable urn made of paper and embedded with flower seeds ready to plant. Your wishes will be met with Celebrate Me Home. Only your imagination limits your celebration.
How you are remembered by loved ones when you are gone is very important to many people.
In the movie Life is Beautiful, this sentiment is seen its truest form between a father and his young son; both are prisoners in a camp during the Holocaust. During his final moments in the bleakest of situations, the father wants only positive, fun, good memories for his child.
Guido Orefice, (Roberto Benigni) realizes he’s likely marching to his death, he sees his son, Giosuè (Giorgio Cantarini). He smiles, winks, and pretends he is marching in a game.
Even when faced with death, we are not alone, and can smile through many of the tears. Celebrate Me Home™ Memorial Planners help to keep the focus on life and its beauty, celebrating life during the transition from earthly life to eternal life.
Only imagination limits the scope and venue of a memorial service. Celebrate Me Home™ Memorial Planners can create a completely unique and custom celebration, or there are several Memorial Themes™ from which to choose.
How will you be remembered? How do you want to be remembered?